Chapter 6(Edition 2)-Female Foeticide. Why?

6/28/2012

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I made up several excuses of not watching the new telly series-Satyamev Jayate. I have no clue, no damn idea why did I do that! May be was too coy to may be face what the condition is now, or rather face a brunt. Whatever may be the reason, the thing is, I finally watched it. And guess what? I was moved. I didn't face any brunt, but was devastated to see something so shocking and cruel. How could people be this pathetic? And still have the guts to roam around with widened chest, and raised collars. What society, what culture! I have lost even the single percent of trust and hope I had on people.

Till now I thought,

1. Okay, girls were raped but still people praised them for what they nurtured in a society.
2. Not wanting a girl child is one thing, but no body would go beyond a certain limit.
3. Urban India is more advanced and warm towards us.

The truth is,

1. Urban areas are more ruined.
2. People don't praise anything, they still loathe us, the mere presence of a girl in a society is hated.
3. We are considered dumb, a burden, back logs of the society.

The bottom line is,

1. Rural areas are better. May be not in terms of providing a standard/literacy, but in a level concerned with humanity.
2. We talk about education, false education that is. It is a waste. What education are we talking about that teaches about killing a life? (Irrespective of gender)
3. Development is a sham word here. We are no where developing. If killing an unborn life is called development, well we are sure heading towards our dooms day.

But, my main point is,

1. Why female foeticide?
What do you get? I mean okay, you get a son. Then what? He will not start working/earning the day you bring him home. You will have to feed him/cover him the same way you would have done for a girl child. So what is the difference?

2. Why girls are still considered a back log?
A burden? Do we not study good enough or may be not get enough pay checks? I am so sure we are doing way better than most of the guys!

3. Why do doctors promote this?
(Not all, mostly) Doctors are always associated with saving lives. Then why this? May be a girl child is not considered alive enough.

4. Why do literate people participate and practice this?
You are literate. At least separate yourself from the illiterates somewhere! But, guess what? Education ruined you, I suppose.

My conclusion,

1. Keep killing. A day would come when there won't be any girl left. Then try conceiving and getting a bump.

2. Yes we are different. After how we are treated, we still embrace this society with the same zeal and love everyday.

3. Yes we are needed. May be not as a girlfriend or a wife. But no body would regret having a mother. (So stop fucking around with your stupid girlfriend and wife jokes! They are sick and not funny at all.)

What I look forward to?

1. More acceptance.
2. Balanced sex ratios.
3. More jokes on how husbands cheat and how incapable they are at doing house chores.
4. A world where we are treated equal. (By equal I don't mean you will punch my arm the next time we meet up. I am still a lady, remember that, always!)

PS:-To all those who dream of having a son someday and not wanting a girl child at all,

"Please don't hate us this much. Remember, the person who gave you life is/was a woman herself. No matter how much you crib about being tortured by us, the thing is, the world needs a balance. So, don't ruin it x)"

8 Comments

Ishan link

6/27/2012 10:33:37 pm

pure respect...BEAUTIFUL

Saumya link

6/27/2012 11:09:27 pm

Thank you for reading and commenting :) Always been so appreciative xD

Sumit hooda

6/27/2012 11:50:41 pm

Pretty bold , bt true .i hav seen ppl thnkng nd behavng so

Saumya link

6/29/2012 07:41:51 pm

Thanks for reading and commenting Sumit :)

Brother ashu :)

6/28/2012 02:37:20 am

Really this is very saddening ,especially thinking about many female gyno's who also actively conducting such things. Till we allow such things to happen our nations progress will be truncated.

Anyways , nice post...and congrats for this blog , i'm hooked!

Saumya link

6/29/2012 07:44:27 pm

Hey Ashu :)

Thanks soo much and I totally agree with you :)
Glad you liked it and commented !

Anurag

6/29/2012 10:58:19 pm

In my advice that we have reached to a point where we should talk about female feticide and we should explore why this crime is keep happening.
If you talk to people from different walk of life they always prefer a son and it is a fact which is sad but truth. So why should not we trace the reason behind this mentality of ours’ and discuss it, find a solution and make world a beautiful place to live.
I am just trying to list some of the reason which comes to my mind:
• Is it still dowry?
• Is it fear of women’s sexual promiscuity?
• Is it a fear of society where we think women’s chastity should be protected?
• Is it a fear of old age security?
These all are open question and all we need is to discuss about it and change the stereotype thinking in society.
There is Hindi proverb which says “PAAP SAY GHRINA KARO, PAPI SE NAHI”.

Saumya link

6/30/2012 04:51:01 pm

Hey Anurag

Firstly, thanks for stopping by and taking out time to actually go through the blog, writing down the points; I really appreciate it :)

Coming down to the topic, I agree that we need to go till the roots of the problem, if we aim at curing this disease like behavior. In context with the pointers you provided,

1. Okay, dowry could be one reason, but then you need money (may be a little less amount) to get a son married too. And, dowry is something that is like a seed. The more you nurture the idea of it, the more it grows. So, if a family faces something like that, chances are (Most prolly) they cultivated the whole situation. It is not the girl's fault, but the family that encouraged the groom's family to go to such an extent.

2. Women's sexual promiscuity? Er? Seriously? It is not that we have never seen cases of MALE promiscuity even. But people don't go to an extent of killing him, do they? In many tribes, male counterparts practice polygamous relationships, but that doesn't raise many eyebrows. Then why fear of something like this should push people to the limit of foeticide?

3. Again, it is not like women only have to deal with something like this. But, I agree that may be, a woman's security might be a reason.

4. Yeah, this reason is pretty valid. But, then again we see many parents being shifted to old age homes, not been taken care of properly. So, the 'security' thing is still an unsure issue. Although having said that, I completely agree with this point. People do have this mind set.

I agree that, we must loathe the actual idea-sin behind the cause and not the people who committed it. But, then who are we suppose to blame if not the sinner? I can't blame the sin or the idea for creating an imbalance in the society. Can I? I can only look at people and point a finger, cause they are what I see.

I agree with few parts of what you said, and doubtful about the rest. But, then I don't know about majority of the population out there. May be the questions that you raised could be the doubts of those millions out there, who are practicing/going to practice female foeticide.

Nice to read a different opinion :)

Thanks again for reading!!

Chapter 6(Edition 2)-Female Foeticide. Why?

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